"And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds."
I am absolutely sick unto death of the unloving, uncharitable, unhelpful, and disrespectful manner in which the sexes have come to treat one another of late.
I haven't the slightest idea where "obviously it's just her time of the month" and "if you want it done right, ask a woman" come from, in the grand scheme of things. Perhaps Genesis 3. Is this stuff as old as the hills? I don't know, but it needs to end.
Single Dad Laughing wrote about this yesterday from the perspective of how men treat women, and what message is communicated. Check this out:
It is not the impossibly air brushed females on magazine covers who are causing women to hold themselves against a standard of perfection. No, it's not that at all. Holy crap. Why am I just realizing this? Why doesn't anybody seem to realize this?
It is the men that stop and look at those magazines.
It is because of us, guys. It is because we leave them with no other option. We stop. We look. We comment. We joke. We implant those very thoughts into their way of thinking. We make sure they know that we agree with everything the media has brainwashed us to believe beauty to be.As far as women constantly comparing themselves to other women and feeling worthless, I think he's maybe a little too hard on himself, but it's his confession, so I'll let him have it. I do want to point out, however, that women can be very, very hard on each other, even when there are no men directly involved.
Nonetheless, the point I'm making here is about opposite genders. So, I headed off to a meeting last night just after I'd read the Single Dad Laughing post above, and so maybe it was in my head a bit. But at the meeting, we got to discussing an entirely different church building that is very poorly designed. Think about if you had a split level house with the only bathrooms on the bottom level and the only living room-type area on the top level. It is pretty poorly designed, I'll admit. But as the group (5 women, 3 men) was lamenting this issue that doesn't even involve any of them, one of the women in the group declared that, "Obviously, it must have been designed by men." The other women at the table all laughed and agreed (and I'm trying to remember - I think I just sort of awkwardly laughed), and the men shut up, and shut down. I didn't really evaluate it in the moment; the fact that the whole thing even happened only really hit me after I got home.